FEATURE FRIDAY

I KNOW HER BF IS CHEATING. SHOULD I TELL HER? HELP!

FeatureFriday

Hello guys, it’s Feature Friday! Every Friday I would be sharing a real life experience and situation of a reader who needs my opinion. If you have a situation that you need my opinion on, email me on featurefriday@alocovivavoce.com.

Read the situation and my opinion after the cut. The names have been changed to protect the identity of the person being featured. Enjoy!

Hello OUR,

My name is Anita and I am dating a guy called Andrew. Andrew lives with his cousin Idris who has a girlfriend he’s been dating for five years called Nicole. During a work event few months ago, Idris met a girl named Alice whom he claims is just his friend. Alice has met the members of his family including Nicole and everyone really likes her because she’s such a cool person to chill with.

Over the months, Alice frequently visits during the weekends and sometimes weekdays after work but I noticed that she only comes whenever Idris is around. Every other person could be in the house but she would never come around unless Idris is there even though she’s now friends with everyone.

After I observed this, I asked my boyfriend Andrew who is Idris’ cousin and housemate if there was anything going on between Alice and Idris but he said they were just friends.

Few days later, Nicole who is Idris’ girlfriend of five years threw a surprise party for him and invited Alice since they are now friends and that’s when Alice confided in me that she’s having something with Idris and she feels bad for Nicole but she really likes Idris.

What should I do with this information? Although I’ve known Nicole longer, I feel closer to Alice which is probably why she confided in me and begged me not to tell anyone else. Do I actually not tell anyone about this and watch Nicole get hurt? Or should I say something and most likely ruin the friendship with Alice?

REPLY:

Hello Anita,

I get your confliction but the first thing that comes to my mind after reading your situation is the fact that you should be weary of Alice. I mean how can she allow herself have something with a guy that has been dating the same girl for five years and still have the mind to be friends with her. If I were you, I would steer clear of Alice. She is not really a kind of person you want to keep around you. Who is to say she won’t end up going after your boyfriend since she obviously has no boundaries.

About her telling you she’s having something with Idris, I reckon you hold your peace. Nicole may not even believe you anyway and that may end up straining the relationship with your boyfriend because you’ll become the enemy.

Once again, I advice you end the so called friendship with Alice for your own sake and keep her little secret to yourself. This way, you end up saving your face incase Nicole finds out eventually, you won’t end up still being hated for knowing and being comfortable with it.

Feel free to comment, ask questions, share your experiences and suggestions.

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  1. In my opinion, the lady in question should steer right clear of the girl liking the Idris guy. Idris probably was getting bored of his 5 year relationship with Nicole and needed something spicy with Alice; hence the fling. And like you rightly mentioned she might also go after Anita’s boyfriend after all she’s in that line of business. Having said that, Nicole might have an idea(or the whole gist) that Alice and her boo are knocking boots, But decided to keep mute. After all, keeping your enemies( and rivals) closer is much safer so you keep an eye on them. Anita kindly “face your work” cos from the way everything is sounding, Alice doesn’t mean well. 🙂
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    • Thank you Emmanuella for your comment. You have a grave point about Nicole already knowing and just being hush about it. She probably realizes it’s a phase Idris is going through and will most likely get over it soon. But that raises a whole other line of questioning,Is it really wise to be silent on a cheating partner? By doing that, are you protecting your relationship? or merely deepening your wounds. Food for thought!

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    • Thanks for reading and commenting Wade. My aim of starting this blog is to inspire people with my opinion and I am glad I am able to achieve that. Keep coming back for more

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    • Thanks for “returning the favor” Gmail sign in accounts and I hope you keep coming back. About using my ideas, they’re not trademarked so feel free. I believe there are other blogs like mine so it’ll be pleasing to welcome you to the club 🙂

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