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Read the situation and my opinion after the cut. The names have been changed to protect the identity of the person being featured. Enjoy!
My name is Anita and I am dating a guy called Andrew. Andrew lives with his cousin Idris who has a girlfriend he’s been dating for five years called Nicole. During a work event few months ago, Idris met a girl named Alice whom he claims is just his friend. Alice has met the members of his family including Nicole and everyone really likes her because she’s such a cool person to chill with.
Over the months, Alice frequently visits during the weekends and sometimes weekdays after work but I noticed that she only comes whenever Idris is around. Every other person could be in the house but she would never come around unless Idris is there even though she’s now friends with everyone.
After I observed this, I asked my boyfriend Andrew who is Idris’ cousin and housemate if there was anything going on between Alice and Idris but he said they were just friends.
Few days later, Nicole who is Idris’ girlfriend of five years threw a surprise party for him and invited Alice since they are now friends and that’s when Alice confided in me that she’s having something with Idris and she feels bad for Nicole but she really likes Idris.
What should I do with this information? Although I’ve known Nicole longer, I feel closer to Alice which is probably why she confided in me and begged me not to tell anyone else. Do I actually not tell anyone about this and watch Nicole get hurt? Or should I say something and most likely ruin the friendship with Alice?
I get your confliction but the first thing that comes to my mind after reading your situation is the fact that you should be weary of Alice. I mean how can she allow herself have something with a guy that has been dating the same girl for five years and still have the mind to be friends with her. If I were you, I would steer clear of Alice. She is not really a kind of person you want to keep around you. Who is to say she won’t end up going after your boyfriend since she obviously has no boundaries.
About her telling you she’s having something with Idris, I reckon you hold your peace. Nicole may not even believe you anyway and that may end up straining the relationship with your boyfriend because you’ll become the enemy.
Once again, I advice you end the so called friendship with Alice for your own sake and keep her little secret to yourself. This way, you end up saving your face incase Nicole finds out eventually, you won’t end up still being hated for knowing and being comfortable with it.
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