FEATURE FRIDAY

MY FRIEND IS A PIMP. HELP!

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Hello guys, it’s Feature Friday! Every Friday I would be sharing a real life experience and situation of a reader who needs my opinion. If you have a situation that you need my opinion on, email me on featurefriday@alocovivavoce.com.

Read the situation and my opinion after the cut. The names have been changed to protect the identity of the person being featured. Enjoy!

Hello OUR,

My name is Ada and I am a fashion designer. I recently moved to a new state with my husband and as a result, I am short of friends and customers. Due to my type of business, I am very quick to make friends especially with females so as to expand my brand and increase my profit. Few months ago, I met a client who became a friend and patronizes me a lot and has also given me almost 70% of my customers but to my surprise she turned out to be someone else other than what she portrays.

On her social media accounts like bb, WhatsApp and Instagram, she always puts up religious quotes and updates like “It is good to serve the Lord” or “One with God is one with majority” and to the best of my knowledge, she was a devout Christian which is why I brought her close to my home and introduced her to my husband.

About a week ago, I sent a dress I made for another friend (who lives in the state I used to reside in) through my Christian friend since she happened to be visiting that state and after the person collected the dress, I got a distressing phone call. My other friend called asking if I was close friends with the girl and I replied “not really, she’s just a client” so I could get the gist. Then she replied “Thank God! Because her ways are not straight”. She went on to say that the girl is a PIMP and had even tried to recruit her for some deal sometime in the past.

This information shocked me to my toes and has left me confused. My first thought is to keep my distance. But then what about my business? If I cut her off, won’t my business suffer? Since she gave me 70% of my customers? At the same time, being associated with someone with that kind of reputation isn’t really the best especially for a married woman. What do I do?

REPLY:

Hello Ada,

To be honest with you, don’t think about this too much. I don’t know how long you’ve been married but from what I gather, your marriage is relatively new. I am saying this because your Christian friend is probably the first of her kind that has come your way. Truth be told, you can’t distance yourself from everyone you come across especially in your kind of business just because their way of making a living doesn’t necessarily conform to morality.

The only thing I advice you refrain from is associating her with your husband. She should not in any way be 50 meters around him for obvious reasons. Also, you could try avoid being too personal with her and find a way to limit your relationship to being strictly business but that would take a bit of time. Do it gradually, not abruptly. But whatever you do, do not cut her off completely. That WILL indeed affect your business and doesn’t solve the problem because fast forward few months from now, you most likely will meet a lot of “Christian friends” who you would have to cut off again and again until you end up cutting off everyone and losing all your customers.

I hope I’ve been of help. Good luck!

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7 replies »

  1. It’s easy! Keep the interaction simple and strictly professional and do not entertain discussions that are not business related!!!

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  2. As a fashion designer, you’re going to come across people, especially ladies from different works of life. Cutting anyone out in my opinion is not really the best option.

    Put your professional hat on. Keep it on the business level and all is well on both sides. There’s more to life than meets the eye a la Twitter, Instagram, Facebook; a lot of fakery out there. Lol.

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