It is quite funny how most Nigerians (especially the typical Nigerian man) react whenever they hear the word “Surrogacy”. You get reactions like “God forbid” or “abomination” or “how can someone else have my baby?” They say all this but all I hear are the cries of women in dying need of this solution but have no means.
So yes! In my opinion, Surrogacy is a BABY SOLUTION!
To be honest, the idea of it being a baby factory is not farfetched due to the fact that there are very few women willing to donate their womb as a home for the birth of another person’s baby. Due to the high rise in demand, it is expected that the price will also rise! This rise in price is the reason why some people take exception in the fact that Surrogacy is now more or less a steady source of income for those involved aka “Baby Factory”.
The question is “Is this an exploitative act? Or simply an appropriate business venture?”
First of all, we must acknowledge the risks these women who choose to be surrogate mothers are faced with which is probably why it is mandatory that prior to being a surrogate mother, you must have bore at least two of your own children.
Secondly, the parents of the unborn child are usually so demanding from their surrogate mother that they expect her to leave her hometown and move in with them or move somewhere close to them so they could keep an eye on her and basically monitor her every move.
Then after 9 months of being a vessel and giving you the one thing you couldn’t give yourself, the thank you note is the notion that Surrogacy is now a “baby factory”? So what if the surrogate mothers are really deciding to make a steady income out of this? Isn’t she putting her entire life on hold for the parents of the child? Doesn’t she bend to their rules and literally become their puppet for the entire 9 months? Isn’t all of these sacrifice an entitlement to be well compensated?
Permit me to call those that support this recent tag – on Surrogacy being a baby factory SELFISH and UNGRATEFUL! It is always appalling how we humans want to eat our cake and have it.
Yes, surrogacy is the answer to the prayers of a lot of women and men who are striving to be parents with no success coming from the natural way but we have to admit that this same surrogacy is a luxury unfortunately not everyone can afford.
I think it would be somewhat unfair to ask so much of someone else all for a measly stipend.
I doubt I can be a surrogate mother but if I am ever to consider going through the excruciating pains of labor for someone I don’t even know then be rest assured that it will come at a horrendous charge. After all, I am putting my life on the line so you best have a big, fat incentive waiting around the corner.
OVER TO YOU:
What are your thoughts on Surrogacy? Do you agree with me? Or not?
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