Hello guys, it’s Feature Friday! And it’s also my birthday! Happy birthday to me!!! 😀
Every Friday I would be sharing a real life experience and situation of a reader who needs my opinion. If you have a situation that you need my opinion on, email me on email@example.com.
Read the situation and my opinion after the cut. The names have been changed to protect the identity of the person being featured. Enjoy!
My name is Alexia and I honestly don’t know if I am currently single or in a relationship. I met a guy named Anthony a few months ago and we got along almost immediately. He is a very sweet guy and all my friends seem to approve of him but like I said, I don’t know if we’re in a relationship or not.
Anthony and I pretty much do everything together. We go out on dates regularly, he comes to my house to visit and I go to his house. I have met his family and everyone he knows. We have even gotten intimate several times just like normal couples yet I am not sure if we are in a relationship.
After sometime when everyone literally started referring to me as his girlfriend, I did the needful and asked him where we stood and what we were doing and his response was the dreaded “What do you want?” I replied and said “I want to be happy”. Of course he knows he makes me happy so shouldn’t wanting to be happy also mean wanting him for keeps? He never said anything again after that.
Two weeks ago, he kept going on and on about how his cousin was getting married outside of town in another state and he really didn’t want to travel for the wedding but deep down in my mind, I knew he would actually go. Anyway, my instincts were right as he called me the Sunday following the day of the wedding after he didn’t call me throughout the previous day – Saturday. He called and said “you know I travelled for the wedding right?”
This is not even the annoying part. The annoying part is that after he came back, he never even bothered to apologize for travelling without telling me. He completely acted like he didn’t do anything wrong and that’s where I have a problem. What do I do about this situation? I’m thinking of keeping my distance, after all, since I might not really be his girlfriend maybe he owes me no explanation.
What do I do about this situation? I’m thinking of keeping my distance, after all, since I might not really be his girlfriend maybe he owes me no explanation. Please advise me on what to do.
I honestly don’t know why you keep saying “I don’t know if I’m in a relationship or not”. For the past few months, you see this guy every day, you go on dates regularly, you visit yourselves often, you have met his friends and even family, you spend a lot of time and do everything together, you have been intimate several times, you are even upset that he went “twenty four” hours without contacting you, and I could go on and on. Yet you say you are not sure if you are in a relationship with him?
Please do not get this twisted, there is definitely something going on between you and Anthony and from what I gather, it is mutual.
Look at it this way, if there was the so called name tag on your relationship called “girlfriend” and he went away without telling you, what would be your reaction? That should be your same reaction now!
That being said, it is best you actually get closure with the whole “relationship tag” thing. I mean it’s not like he treats you badly or he’s playing games, he just isn’t tagging your relationship and since you have a problem with that then mention it to him. And if he still shy’s away from the question then maybe you need to rethink your entire involvement with him.
I hope I’ve been of help. I wish you all the best!
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