Today’s post is more or less as a result of a conversation I had with a friend of mine. For as long as I’ve known her, she has never EVER dated an older guy. Ok not ever but it’s an 8 to 2 ratio. So I constantly tease her about her being cougar and liking younger guys.
During our conversation, she was of the opinion that she doesn’t necessarily like younger guys but because she is very accommodating, she is able to “blend in” with whichever comes her way. And that was the moment my theory was born – “your subconscious simply acts as a result of your personal preference”.
I responded to her saying “she subconsciously attracts younger guys because that is what she really likes deep down”
Like I said, this conversation prompted me to write a post but I would also love to hear what you think about the said topic. So read my thoughts and opinion after the cut and feel free to share yours afterwards.
While researching for this post, I came across the definition of “the law of attraction”. According to Wikipedia, it is the name given to the maxim “like attracts like” which in New Thought philosophy is used to sum up the idea that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts a person brings positive or negative experiences into their life.
Wait! Doesn’t this definition correspond with my theory?
I then showed it to my friend quoting “like attracts like” so if you prefer younger guys, you will naturally “attract” them and her response was “It is not my fault that I am young at heart and older guys cannot handle me or their idea of me”. She also went ahead to say the definition did not apply to her.
Now the question is do we really control whom we attract? Or is there a driving force that attracts and repels certain type of people to and from each other? And even if there is a force, how does it determine the type of individual that is suitable for each person?
Going by my theory, my answer is YES we control whom we attract and YES there is a driving force that attracts and repels certain type of people BUT I firmly believe the so called “force” ONLY acts based on what we have already SUBCONSCIOUSLY laid out.
To elaborate further, I would give my real life example.
Growing up, right from secondary school, I had never been attracted to younger guys or guys my own age. When I say younger guys, I do not literally mean guys younger than me. Rather, I mean guys that are at most 5 years OLDER than me. In other words, you had to be at least 5 years OLDER than me to get my attention.
My very first boyfriend was my senior in Secondary School and I remember all his female classmates being jealous and beefing me because he chose to date a junior.
Even now that I am all grown up, I have still never dated or considered dating a young guy. Actually I tried it once and it was a DISASTER.
It was so bad that we literally had nothing in common or anything enlightening and informative to talk about. He was interested in things his own age while I was more interested in things WAY beyond his age. You know how they say “girls develop faster than boys”?
Anyway, after a total fail in my “younger guy” experiment, I feel like my subconscious completely ruled out guys a certain age and below. And yes, I had an age cutoff mark 😛
Subsequently, I realized that for some weird reason, all the guys I met and came in contact with were the type of guys I liked; older guys. As a matter of fact, I feel like a younger guy WOULD NOT have even bothered approaching me because my entire aura would have literally chased him away.
Basically, they chose not to approach me because as weird as it sounds, they could already see it was a NO GO area!
The older guys on the other hand saw the same aura but this time around, it was more WELCOMING.
I honestly do not know what it was exactly that attracted older guys towards me. Maybe I glanced at them unknowingly or smiled at them unconsciously or maybe it’s something else. Whatever the case may be, I DID NOT do anything specifically or intentionally to “attract or repel” either of these guys. But for whatever reason, just like I wanted, the older ones kept coming around.
Relating this to my friend, I am of the opinion that just like I did not necessarily “do anything” to attract these older guys but because that was what I “really liked” deep down, she probably also “really likes” younger guys which is why she doesn’t necessarily “do anything” to attract them. But for some reason, they can’t stop coming!
In conclusion, I honestly do believe that when one is more receptive towards certain type of people, “the law of attraction” will definitely keep bringing those people towards them and just like my theory states, “your subconscious simply acts as a result of your personal preference”.
This is my TWO CENTS! What’s yours?
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