Hello guys, it’s Feature Friday! Every Friday I would be sharing a real life experience and situation of a reader who needs my opinion. If you have a situation that you need my opinion on, email me on email@example.com.
Read the situation and my opinion after the cut. The names have been changed to protect the identity of the person being featured. Enjoy!
Greetings to you! My name is Evelyn and I recently got engaged to my childhood best friend named Roland. Roland is a fantastic person. He makes me happy in every way possible and we are very much in love with each other.
Something happened quite recently that made me question my entire line of reasoning and even wonder if it is normal to have such thoughts or if it is just PLAIN EVIL.
My mother-in-law to be who was sick for a little while, suddenly died following the illness and for whatever reason, I DO NOT have any feelings in my heart whatsoever.
Even though I never got to meet her, I know how close she was to Roland and also have learned about her “bossy” personality.
It’s not like I am happy that she died but I just DO NOT FEEL ANY SADNESS in my heart and equally do not know how to feel about her death.
My question is “Does it make me a bad person?” Is there something wrong with me? How come I don’t feel torn, broken and devastated just like Roland does? I love him so much and I want to share in his pain but how come I feel no emotion towards the death of his mother? Is this normal? Please help me!
Please do not beat yourself up about this. Yes you are in love with Roland but you must remember that Roland is not his mother. Because of how much you love Roland, one might think automatically, you would love his parents and siblings just as you love him. That is not true!
Yes, you would care for them naturally because whomever your fiancé cares about should be important to you. But it takes a bit of time for that care to grow into love.
I think the issue here is that the “care” you had for his mother never got the chance to blossom into love and that leaves you feeling the same way you would feel if some random person you know died and not the feeling of losing a loved one.
Like I said, don’t beat yourself up too much and most importantly, don’t fake the emotions. All you need do now is focus on comforting your fiance and giving him a shoulder to lean on. He needs you now more than ever.
I hope I’ve been helpful. Thanks for sharing.
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