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SHOULD THE GIRLS IMPREGNATED BY BOKO HARAM KEEP THE PREGNANCY?

Sometime ago, we read in the news that over TWO HUNDRED (200) girls were rescued in the Sambisa forest in Borno State and that all of those girls were raped and impregnated by Boko Haram.

The girls narrated their unsettling encounter on how they DO NOT even know who the father of their babies are amongst the lot because the Boko Haram boys took turns in sleeping with them EVERY NIGHT. So it literally could be any one of them.

Such a pitiable dismay that was as most of the girls were still in secondary school and below the age of eighteen. And to have experienced rape at such an extreme level is unfathomable.

I must commend each and every one of them for not even conceiving the unthinkable which would be to end what might be called a miserable life. After suffering such tragedy, who would actually blame them for harboring such thoughts?

Moving forward after their rescue, there was a debate on what should be done about their pregnancy. Over 200 girls were in expectancy for these grisly, antagonizing, and insurgent Boko Haram boys and a lot of individuals, religious and non-religious bodies had an opinion of what should become of the yet to be born “Boko Haram” offspring.

Organizations like United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) donated delivery kits to the pregnant girls and also offered psychological counseling to them. Even His Holiness, Pope Francis persuaded the Nigerian government not to foster abortion of the numerous and unwanted pregnancies.

As for me, all I would say is that morally and religiously speaking, they HAVE TO keep the pregnancy but I am not going to deny that the other option makes a good argument. Let me visit some of those arguments one after the other.

Firstly, let us all remember that as at the time these girls were abducted, their homes were also raided by the same Boko Haram and most of their families were killed. Basically, now that they are free, they literally have nowhere to go. No husband, no mother, no father and no relative.

So the big question is: Who will cater for these girls before and after their baby is born?

Few weeks ago, I wrote a post about the overlooked causes of VVF in Nigeria where I talked about unskilled birth attendants and lack of antenatal (amongst others) as underlying causes of the dreadful disease. This could be the case for these girls if caution is not taken.

My point is that what necessary arrangements have been made by the Nigerian government in preparation for the arrival of these babies?

ONE OF THE RESCUED GIRLS WITH HER NEWBORN BABY

Keep in mind that these girls are more or less solely dependent on the government at the moment for sustenance as they have no one else to turn to. So if the government is indeed encouraging them to have these babies, there should be adequate provision for these kids which should include the basic necessities (food, water, shelter, clothing, education), and the whole nine yards.

In as much as the government can easily create a body solely for the purpose of catering for these girls and their babies, we must also take into cognizance the indisputable fact that inhabitants of our country Nigeria “prey” on opportunities like this.

Given that the credibility of most Nigerians is questionable, it goes without a doubt that the funds which would be allocated to that “body” will most likely be misappropriated thereby defeating the purpose of sustainability for the girls and their children.

I really hate to say this but unfortunately, THIS IS THE COUNTRY WE LIVE IN!

Fast forward few years from now when the children are a bit grown, let us not forget that Boko Haram might just come to reclaim the fruit of their loins. As dreadful as this may sound, they certainly need to reproduce in order to be able to extend their “Boko Haram” lineage.

And now that these girls successfully bore their children, it is not impossible that they will sometime in the near future return for their offspring so as to instill in them the evil act they currently deploy.

I CANNOT STRESS ENOUGH THE HAVOC THAT SITUATION COULD BREED IF IT EVER TRULY HAPPENS!

Let’s not also forget that these kids (especially the boys) could grow up in search of their father. You know what they say about “blood being thicker than water”. So regardless of education and all of the fundamental knowledge in order to prevent them from going astray, sometimes, the son of a thief is also a thief.

It really is unfortunate what these girls had to endure at such tender age but then again, looking at the bright side, children are a blessing so I hope and pray that in one way or the other, these children put a smile on the face of their mother and the society at large.

What is your take on the girls having babies for Boko Haram?

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  1. My take is that the babies should probably be given up for adoption if the young mother is unable to cope. I think of the possibility that they may not even know who the father is out of all the gang abuse et al.

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    • I agree Jacqueline. Let them give the babies up for adoption. That’s the best option. Someone mentioned in the comments about the possibility of people stigmatising the children because they are Boko’s which I totally agree is possible.

      So the only way to avoid that is through adoption somewhere far off from their base without full disclosure to the adopting parents of their heritage so as to prevent further stigmatisation.

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  2. I remember my mum once told my sister that she cant date a family friend because his dad left his mum and she was worried the son might turn out to be like that. Hian? This was a very compassionate and helpful boy that watched his mum suffer for being a single mum. A boy that is a pillar to his family (nuclear and extended). Whenever his cousins are in trouble, he was usually the first person they will call. He was also the shoulder for his mum to cry on (even before her husband). He was that kind of a guy from as young as 17 and for as long I have known him, he was very consistent. The relationship didn’t last.

    I have also heard people make comments suggesting a child’s truant behaviour is because they have no father or even harshly that they are “b*****ds”.

    Why the long epistle? Well, no matter how much help these children get from the govt or charity organisation, every one will be watching out for them in the worst way possible. They will be singled out. Any act of stubborn behaviour, truancy. Anything whatsoever and I can imagine comments like “what do you expect from terrorist’s child”. Over time, it will become a self fulfilling prophesy on some of them. Personally, I believe that this is the worst punishment they can ever dish out. If they must keep them alive then plans must be made so that they can be adopted anonymously i.e. such that even their adopted parents will not be made aware of their background.They can simply say the child was a product of rape and provide support for their adoptive parents. If a plan as elaborate as this cant be planned and implemented for those children then they are better of aborting them IMO

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    • Wow Laydeelarz! You actually make a lot of sense with your comments. The level of stigmatisation in Nigeria is very high and I agree with you 100% that these children will be secluded with pointing fingers even if they exude behaviours that are conversant with children their age.

      Like rebellion, stubbornness, tantrums and what have you. Other children would get a free pass but they wouldn’t because they are Boko’s children.

      Now that’s definitely not the way to bring up a child and like you said, since they can’t act normally towards them, adoption in a totally different jurisdiction without detail of their lineage is the best option.

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  3. I’m pro choice. If they want to keep the baby, fine if not then they can abort or give up for adoption.
    I don’t have a preference, nor should I…

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    • As much as it really shouldn’t be our headache Lydia, I’m personally tired of seeing really young children (that should be in school) on the streets either begging for change or cleaning windscreens during traffic in exchange for charity.

      It’s honestly heartbreaking to think that would actually be the fate of these 200+ children if nothing is done. Their mothers most likely can’t afford better so let’s even hope worse wouldn’t be the case.

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    • Thanks for your comment Roy. As much as I agree with you that actions are better than words (if that’s what you mean), I believe the first step to correcting a wrong is acknowledgement and that is usually done by voicing out the issue; hence the post.

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