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Now, for today’s topic.
While addressing thousands of Zanu PF supporters at a rally in Mberengwa last week, the First lady of Zimbabwe Grace Mugagbe said women who wear mini skirts have no one but themselves to blame if they are raped by sexual perverts.
“If you walk around wearing mini skirts displaying your thighs and inviting men to drool over you, then you want to complain when you have been raped? It’s unfortunate because it will be your fault.”
The First Lady then called on women to wear long dresses or trousers and said that the type of dressing, which left women’s legs exposed, was a result of moral decadence.
A lot of people described her comments as shocking and went on to dish a backlash at her for uttering what is now known as a “daft” statement.
My question is, if this statement was made by anyone other than “Mugagbe’s wife”, would it have been received differently?
Firstly, let me just say that there is no criteria for rape whatsoever. For one to graduate to the point of forcing someone else to have non-consenting sexual relations goes to show how much of an animal that person is and there can never be a justification for such brutality.
In as much as there is no justification for rape, don’t we feel like our young ladies sometimes take it too far?
Right now, I am speaking from a third world perspective.
In first world countries like the UK and USA, it is perfectly normal to have people walking around with short shorts and miniskirts during the day especially during the summer when it’s really hot.
It is also perfectly ABNORMAL to find everyone wearing a black overall with long sleeves and a veil aka ABAYA during the summer season as well.
But guess what, there are parts of the world (Middle East) where Abayas are a necessity. Come rain, come shine, women and even men wear their abayas and kaftans all day long!
These people in these other parts of the world are dressing according to their religion, morals, cultures and what have you; regardless of the weather. As a matter of fact, women in those parts of the world who get raped for wearing “mini skirts” are actually held responsible for their unfortunate predicament.
I am not saying that blaming the rape victim is the right thing to do. All I am saying is that people would fall into less trouble IF and ONLY IF they adhere to the principles, moral ethics and culture of wherever they find themselves.
There is a very famous saying that “if you are in Rome, behave like Roman”.
Let me give you a very practical example.
One time while I was in Benin, a friend of mine asked me to accompany her to the tailor’s to pick up an outfit she was making. Before then, we were at home relaxing so I had on shorts with a t-shirt.
For some reason, I chose not to change into something else because I felt we were just going to the tailor’s shop and back so I didn’t really feel it was an issue since we wouldn’t be walking the streets.
Unbeknownst to me, my
evil friend’s tailor was in the market; New Benin Market. For Lagosians, that is the Benin equivalent to Oshodi market.
Unfortunately for me, I was typing a text on my phone through out the journey up until when we arrived and as soon as the driver said we had arrived, without looking up, I came down from the car and he drove off.
That was literally when reality hit.
All of a sudden from no where, a mob gathered and they were staring, pointing fingers, making comments about my dressing and one of them actually grazed my thigh.
Anyway, thankfully I got out of the situation unharmed but my point is that if I were in a different country and wore my “not so short shorts” to the marketplace, it absolutely wouldn’t make a difference but because of the kind of country we live in, it matters a lot.
Watch this video below of a woman (not me) being harassed for wearing a short dress in a market.
Some might say they reacted that way because it was a market and I tell them to try walking the streets of Lagos or even Abuja during the day in a mini skirt or short shorts and if you don’t get stared down or whistled at or blatantly humiliated then call me crazy.
As much as this type of reaction to women in revealing clothing especially like the one in the video above is totally wrong and borderline abusive, this is sadly the country we live in.
I was in a bank a few days ago and a lady walked in with a high slit on her skirt that was showing her thigh. It was like the entire bank paused for a second with the way everyone (including me) simultaneously turned to stare at her and her thigh.
So if “Nigerians” are not civil enough to withhold their reaction when they see a woman in a mini skirt, why are the women willing to put themselves through the humiliation?
In parts of Europe, there are nude beaches where everyone is stack naked whilst tanning under the sun. No one gets stared at in these nude beaches, no one gets mocked or raped.
But try taking off your top in Eleko beach and see what happens.
My point is that our “African men” are not yet ready for that much Westernization where the women dress carefree and get away with it. Our culture doesn’t and will probably never permit it.
So if you choose to wear a mini skirt in this part of the world, kindly ensure not to wear it to a public place with an uncontrollable crowd or to a quiet place with fewer crowd because even the law in this part of the world CANNOT protect you if anything bad happens with you dressed like that.
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