Hello guys, it’s Feature Friday! Every Friday I would be sharing a real life experience and situation of a reader who needs my opinion. If you have a situation that you need my opinion on, email me on firstname.lastname@example.org.
Read the situation and my opinion below. The names have been changed to protect the identity of the person being featured. Enjoy!
My name is Stanley and I have been married for two years to a girl that I know is not right for me.
Earlier on before we got married, we were living together and that was actually when i realized we weren’t compatible. Then I decided we shouldn’t live together anymore so I rented a place for her to move into.
As much as I hoped that would gradually help us drift apart, I guess she wouldn’t have any of that because she kept on coming over and spending the night in my place until she dropped me with the bomb that she was pregnant.
After she broke the news to me, she cried, wailed and begged me to marry her so she doesn’t bring disgrace to her family and eventually, she guilt-tripped me into performing the traditional marriage rites.
We have been married for 2 years now and we have a one year old daughter but I still don’t think she’s the right person for me and as such I’m not enjoying the marriage at all.
I want to walk away and end the marriage but when I think of our little daughter, it breaks my heart because I don’t want to see her get hurt.
Please guide me OUR so I don’t make any mistakes because I love our daughter so much.
There honestly really isn’t much to say here other than you should never marry anyone out of pity because you will end up in a bondage for the rest of your life.
Your case is a bit lenient because you say you only performed the traditional marital rites so according to the law and the church, you are still living as man and woman as opposed to husband and wife. So you probably don’t even need to get a divorce or anything like that.
My advice to you is that for your own sake and for the sake of your daughter whom you are trying so hard not to hurt, you need to find a way to walk away.
If you don’t, your frustration is only going to get worse and let’s hope your daughter doesn’t grow up resenting you for the way you would treat her mother out of frustration for being forced into something you never wanted to do in the first place.
Moreover, it is better for your daughter to grow up in a separated home than in a home where there is no love and peace.
I really hope I’ve been of help. Thanks for sharing!
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