“Feminism is a range of movements and ideologies that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve equal political, economic, cultural, personal, and social rights for women.” – Wikipedia
To be submissive is to obey or yield to someone else.
For the purpose of this post, the word submissive is being used to refer to women who are married to a male partner and also happen to be devoted feminists.
As a woman and as an advocate of feminism, how do you reconcile your need to for equal rights with the biblical need to submit yourself to a man; your husband.
This issue of finding a balance between the two extremes (feminism and submissiveness) is the reason why there are a lot of issues within marriages today; hence the steady rise in divorce.
Even though I might get hated for this, I much prefer the lifestyle back in the day when there was a clear cut sign and everyone knew their jurisdiction. The men knew to fend for their families and the women knew to nurture their children and home.
As much as it is a good thing that women now have a voice and can speak up without fear of being subdued, the issue of not being able to realize where your demand for equal rights end and where your duties as a wife begin is the big problem within families today.
As a feminist, you first and foremost refuse to play a typical “wife” where you trust your husband to make the decisions that are in your best interest. Rather, you demand to be an equal part of the decision making process and insist on your ideologies because you believe as a woman, your opinion should count – and it should indeed.
Then you start having issues where the both of you MUST have it your way and no one is willing to compromise or bend over.
The man insists he is the head of the house so his decision stands and the woman insists her opinion would not be neglected simply because she is a “woman”. Fast forward, few months later, they are divorced – all thanks to feminism.
What a pity!
Even the men are now using the whole Feminism thing to their advantage by sharing their responsibilities with their wives under the umbrella of “equality”.
You now have cases where the husband would insist his wife split the cost of running the home with him half way. From the house rent to upkeep, school fees for the kids and every single family expense gets split down the middle.
As much as this is a lazy act, can you actually blame him? If the woman is sharing his role as head of family, catering for the family is sure a part of that role. So she’s welcome to share the bill.
A lot of
feminists women probably do not have a problem with splitting the bill but personally I do a great deal.
Not because I’m cheap or high maintenance but simply because I believe it is the SOLE responsibility of the man to cater for his family. Of course, I would chip in whenever I can but it should not be a fifty-fifty responsibility between the man and the woman.
And the fact that women have been brainwashed to think that it is okay for them to be partly responsible for their family because of the quest for equal rights is everything that is wrong with crossing the thin line between feminism and submissiveness.
Women DO NOT be fooled. Yes it is okay to be a feminist and to have a voice but you must realize that men were made to be the head of the household. In as much as you can always make your point known and put your foot down every now and then, as a wife, you are biblically required to SUBMIT.
This doesn’t mean you become his puppet and do whatever he says but basically learn to agree to disagree whenever need be rather than create a pool of trouble by insisting stanchly on your opinion.
Feminism is a beautiful thing and it is great that women are standing for equal rights but after you say “I do”, you must find a balance between being a feminist and learning to compromise and submit to your husband so as not to create avoidable problems in your home.
Do you think feminists could make good wives?
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