Hello guys, it’s Feature Friday! Every Friday I would be sharing a real life experience and situation of a reader who needs my opinion. If you have a situation that you need my opinion on, email me on firstname.lastname@example.org.
Read the situation and my opinion below. The names have been changed to protect the identity of the person being featured. Enjoy!
My name is Annabelle and I recently started talking to this guy named Nathan whom I met through a mutual friend over the phone. We live in different states and because of that, we haven’t met yet. However, that hasn’t stopped us from getting to know each other. We have been talking on the phone every day since the first day we spoke.
During one of our phone conversations, he asked me to be his girlfriend but I told him that I think we should wait until we see each other in person before we could officially start dating per se.
A month went by and we were still talking on the phone regularly when all of a sudden he told me that he loved me and I was speechless. How could he love me after only a month? And we haven’t even met yet. Isn’t it a bit too soon to love someone especially when you haven’t even seen the person’s flaws?
Anyway, after he said it, I completely pretended like I didn’t hear what he said and then I quickly changed the topic of conversation. He hasn’t brought it up again since then.
The reason I am writing to you is that I need to know if he actually really loves me or is just saying it because he thinks that is what I want to hear. Could he really know that much about me to be able to fall in love with me over the phone?
Please let me know what you think OUR. I need to know if I’m crazy to think it’s just simply words. Or am I right? Is it just words? Tell me what you think.
To be very honest with you, it is going to be very hard to decipher if he really means it when he says he loves you or not – I’m no wizard.
But all I will tell you is GO WITH YOUR INNER GUT!
Over the course of my life, I have learnt to trust my instinct and it has NEVER failed me. Even when bad things happen, I believe they were ordained by God because my instinct somehow failed to alert me they were going to happen. Otherwise, my thoughts, head and mind would have been screaming DON’T DO IT! DON’T DO IT. And I’ll be forced to listen and eventually see reasons why my instincts were right.
I am no love expert but if there is one thing I know love shouldn’t be, it is complicated. Love should never be complicated. There are no different shades of love. It is one or the other. You either love the person or you don’t. There is no confusion.
So my first thought is if you are confused about this particular case then you are either right and he really doesn’t love you or you simply do not love him back. But whatever the case may be, love doesn’t exist somewhere within your relationship and that is a big problem.
Whether you guys are on different pages emotionally or if he is lying about being in love with you, both scenarios have a zero love commitment which certainly isn’t pleasant and healthy for a relationship and if I were you, I would go with my instinct and take a bow now that it’s still fresh before we get in way above our heads and create even more problems for ourselves or better still, stick to just being friends for now and forget about a “relationship” then see where that leads.
I hope I have been of help. Thanks for sharing!
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