Hello guys, it’s Feature Friday! Every Friday I would be sharing a real life experience and situation of a reader who needs my opinion. If you have a situation that you need my opinion on, email me on firstname.lastname@example.org.
Read the situation and my opinion below. The names have been changed to protect the identity of the person being featured. Enjoy!
My name is Elvina and I am engaged to the man of my dreams. He is everything I have ever wanted in a man and he treats me so well that I need not ask for more. The only problem I have with him are his Facebook uploads.
Not just once or twice but at least once EVERYDAY, my fiance uploads pictures and memes where he is professing his undying love for his mother. Some of them read “I will love ONLY my mother till the end of time”, “No woman can ever take the place of my mother”, “I can never love a woman the way I love my mum” and so many others.
As much as I love a man that shows his mother continuous love and affection, isn’t this a bit too much? Isn’t it a bit scary that my fiance is posting pictures that says “I can never love a woman the way I love my mum”? What about me – his wife to be?
This clearly means that he could never love me as much as he loves his mum and he could never love our daughter (when we have one) as much as he loves his mum. Isn’t this something to be worried about? The fact that I would always be second in his life after his mum of course?
Every time I see those uploads, I constantly worry and I have not been able to summon the courage to ask him about it because for someone who loves his mum that much, I would hate to present myself as the enemy for suggesting that he should include his wife in the list of those he loves the most.
But then again, if he needs to be told to include his wife then maybe there’s no point after all.
Please advice me OUR. I need to know that I’m not crazy for thinking his uploads are a bit too much for someone that is engaged to a woman he supposedly loves. Tell me what you think OUR. Am I really crazy?
WOW! As I was reading your story Elvina, I couldn’t get past the “I will love ONLY my mother till the end of time”. WOW! ONLY HIS MOTHER? That’s really deep!
If I were you Elvina, I would borrow a leg from Ben Johnson and run as fast as I can. That guy spells trouble. I might be wrong but I refuse to stick around to find out.
I don’t know if you have met his mum yet but I can bet a lot of money that she wouldn’t like you and even if she did, she would be in total control of your marriage and when you try to deny her control, you would automatically become the enemy and you know whose side he is going to take when that eventually happens.
To be honest, you really need to summon up the courage to talk to him about his uploads. Ask him exactly what he means by them all and ask him where he places you in his life.
You might be surprised that there is a very reasonable explanation for all of it. Maybe he lost a bet or his account was hacked or maybe he would reiterate the posts and tell you to your face that he couldn’t even love you the way he loves his mother.
If the latter is the case then need I say more?
The ball will then be in your court. You either stick around and deal with whatever comes your way or you move and and find someone else who will treat you with as much importance (if not more) as he treats his immediate family – given that you are going to become his family as well.
I hope I have been of help. Thanks for sharing!
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