“Sex education is instruction on issues relating to human sexuality, including emotional relations and responsibilities, human sexual anatomy, sexual activity, sexual reproduction, reproductive health, reproductive rights, safe sex, birth control and sexual abstinence.” -Wikipedia
Sex education for children would mean opening a child into the world of sex within the umbrella of their understanding so as to enable them have a comprehensive knowledge of not only the act itself but most importantly certain behavioral activities that have the tendency to lead to the act.
In layman terms, early sex education for children can help curb the issue of child molestation which exists in our world today.
The fact is one in three girls and one in six boys are sexually abused before the age of 18 and the worst of it all is that majority of these children were molested by people close to them and/or people they trust like uncles, older cousins, foster parents, step dad, close relatives and so on.
To make things worse, the parents of these children most of the time DO NOT even know that their child was molested except the child grows into an adult and decides to open up to them. Even at that, some of these parents fail to believe their children because they prefer to live in denial that their loving “brother” could do such a thing.
I came across a video on Facebook where a man sexually abused his step daughter and denied it several times until the DNA result came back positive. You can watch the video HERE!!
The purpose of my writing this post is to inform all parents and aspiring parents out there that sexual abuse or molestation is VERY REAL and the only way to ensure its prevention and to protect your child is by teaching them about certain sexual behaviors that SHOULD NOT be tolerated.
The problem with parents in this part of the world is that they feel “sex” is too sacred a topic to be discussed with children. Forgetting that the same way you teach children to clear their table after eating or pick up after themselves or generally teach them right from wrong is the same way you should also teach them about sexually inclined behaviors they SHOULD NOT tolerate from anyone INCLUDING YOU!
By doing this you are not only protecting your child from sexual abuse and molestation but you are most importantly saving him or her from having to live with the truama of being sexually abused for the rest of their lives.
A lot of times, such violation in children can lead to so much anger, pain, distrust, hatred, paranoia, negativity and resentment when they eventually grow up. So if it takes you doing something differently and teaching them a few things here and there so as to ensure their safety, WHY NOT?
I’m not saying that you should show your child pornography or vividly explain a sexual act. Rather, I am saying you need to break it down to their level by telling them exactly what they SHOULD NOT condone from anyone regardless of who it is.
HERE IS A LIST OF THINGS YOU NEED TO TEACH YOUR CHILD(REN) AT EARLY AGE :-
1: Warn your Girl Child Never to sit on anyone’s laps no matter the situation including uncles.
2: Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.
3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as ‘my wife’ or ‘my husband’
4. Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves.
5. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.
6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child.
7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the right values of sex . If you don’t, the society will teach them the wrong values.
8: It is always advisable you go through any new Material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves.
9. Ensure you activate parental controls on your cable networks and advice your friends especially those your child(ren) visit(s) often.
10. Teach your 3 year olds how to wash their private parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas and that
includes you (remember, charity begins from home and with you).
11: Blacklist some materials/associates you think could threaten the sanity of your child (this includes music, movies and even friends and families).
12. Let your child(ren) understand the value of standing out of the
13: Once your child complains about a particular person, don’t keep quiet about it. Take up the case and show them you can defend them.
Remember, we are either parents or parents-to-be and remember “THE PAIN LASTS A LIFETIME”
Is there a better way to avoid and curb sexual molestation in children?
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