Hello guys, it’s Feature Friday! Every Friday I would be sharing a real life experience and situation of a reader who needs my opinion. If you have a situation that you need my opinion on, email me on firstname.lastname@example.org.
Read the situation and my opinion below. The names have been changed to protect the identity of the person being featured. Enjoy!
I’m a guy who has been dating my girlfriend for some time now. So far, my relationship has been going smoothly. We both love each other and above all, I have never had any reason to doubt my girlfriend’s fidelity until quite recently.
To be honest, whatever it is I recently noticed has kind of always been there but I guess I never paid attention to it in the past – it’s about my girlfriend and her father.
The thing is that my girlfriend and her father and very close. They are always around each other and when they don’t see each other, they talk on the phone all the time. There have even been times when I called her but the call was waiting for HOURS and when she finally called me back, she told me she was “talking to her dad”.
I wanted to believe nothing was going on and they were simply really close but there are other stuff that makes me suspect something fishy might be going on.
Quite often she teases me about my body type (lanky) and compares me to her father’s body type (macho) with the words “can’t I see how HOT & SEXY he is?” Basically, she reminds me of how “sexy” her father’s body is over and over again.
The particular one that got me on my toes was one time when we were playing Truth or Dare. Her truth was to mention a guy she fantasizes about and would want to sleep with (other than her boyfriend). Low and behold, she mentioned her dad’s name then she laughed and said she was just kidding after which she mentioned another name.
To be honest, I don’t think she was kidding because all of a sudden, it’s like a spec has been removed from my eye and I am now noticing several things that have been happening which I overlooked in the past.
Like the way she goes on business trips with her dad almost every weekend yet they do not even work in the same field. Or how she tells her mum that she envies her because she is married to her dad? Or one time she told me that her father is so macho and “good in bed” and when I asked her what she meant by that, she covered up saying “all macho men are good in bed”.
Please tell me OUR, is it possible that I’m paranoid and wrong about the entire thing? Or could she really be sleeping with her father? Should I confront her about it?
As much as I want to confront her, I am scared that if I am wrong, she would never forgive me and I’ll end up losing the best thing that ever happened to me.
Help me OUR! The thought that she might be sleeping with her dad is driving me crazy. HELP!
Wow! I have actually never heard anything like this before but this is Feature Friday so there is no censor.
The truth is that I cannot really tell you if your girlfriend is sleeping with her father or not based on your explanation. It is actually hard to decipher.
But personally, I wholeheartedly believe in the saying “if you think she is cheating then she is cheating” or at least on the route to cheating.
I have to point out that it is one thing for her to be attracted to her father (which seems so) but it is actually another thing for her to go ahead and do something about that attraction then it is an entirely different thing for her father to reciprocate her action for her attraction by indulging in incest.
As much as you can easily call her out on this and confront her, you need to be really sure that you have your facts right before attempting any confrontation because incest is not something you can just accuse someone of and expect to continue with the relationship if you turn out to be wrong.
So my advice to you is: Follow your gut feeling and investigate the matter thoroughly to enable you gather as much evidence as you can.
Trail, snoop or better still, get someone to do the trailing and snooping. Basically, do what you have to do to satisfy your inner thoughts otherwise keeping it all inside will indeed drive you crazy and you might just end up exploding.
Please and please, I have to beg you, DO NOT under any circumstance reveal this information to anybody that knows you or her. The worst thing you can do to your girlfriend is spread something that you are not even sure is true.
So get your facts straight so you know exactly what is going on.
I hope I’ve been of help. Thanks for sharing!
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