RUNS GIRL: A creature that through natural selection has evolved a means to survive and in the Darwinian mold, has adopted a lifestyle that entails satisfying the segsy time and needs of the male species in return for material things. This creature/girl is very similar to an Escort in the sense that even when there is no segsy time involved, the girl is paid or compensated for her time. She could also give the GF experience and act like your GF as long as the money/payment in kind is pouring in. – Sir Fariku
ESCORT: A call girl or sex worker who advertises their work/services inconspicuously, never displaying their profession publicly and protecting their identities, usually through pseudonyms. – Wikipedia
HUSTLE: To seek money by shady enterprise, especially pimping and prostitution. – Wikipedia
PROSTITUTION: The business or practice of engaging in sexual relations in exchange for payment or some other benefit. A person who works in this field is called a prostitute, and is kind of a sex worker. – Wikipedia
Now I ask you again, DOES RUNS, ESCORT & HUSTLING EQUAL PROSTITUTION?
Going by the definition above, it is a resounding YES. But personally, I am of the opinion that to an extent, IT CAN BE JUSTIFIED.
Before I go on, I urge you to kindly take a deep breath and hear me out before you judge or condemn me.
Sometime ago, I read a post on Linda Ikeji’s blog about a 24 year old young lady who claimed to have already slept with 600 men. Apparently, the lady’s education was being sponsored by her fiancé but after they broke up, she sort to “runs” for means of survival as her parents were quite poor and dependant on her fiancé before the breakup.
That right there is my “justification” for runs, escort, hustle and what have you.
As much as I am an advocate for morality and religious behavior, I AM A REALIST! And the truth is that the society we live in does not give young girls much of a choice.
Attending University in Nigeria made me realize that there really are only two classes of people; THE RICH AND THE POOR. Unfortunately, the middle class has been wiped off the face of the Earth.
Back in my University days, you would see girls that literally have to “hustle” to feed. They had bills pilling up in and out of school. From their tuition fees to hostel fees, the wellbeing of their parents and siblings and even the tuition fees of their siblings and house rent of their parents.
These were all the responsibility of one individual who happened to be a student.
Let me give you an example of a young lady. I will call her Irene.
Irene was the first of 4 children. She was just about to finish secondary school when her father died and her uncles and family members coveted everything her father left behind, leaving them with nothing. Shortly after, her mum took ill and was unable to contribute to the finances of the family so as the first born she had to step in.
Irene worked all sort of miniature jobs just to make ends meet. She couldn’t afford to go to the university after graduation, so she stayed at home for FOUR YEARS and still wasn’t able to save up enough because they pretty much fed from hand to mouth from her miserly stipend.
Four years had gone by and Irene’s younger ones had either also finished secondary school or were rounding up. Then she ran into an old classmate who took her to see an older married friend of hers.
After the friendly visit, the man gave her 50k cab fare and they exchanged contacts. They met again shortly after but this time, they engaged in sexual activity and before she left, he gave her 100k to go shopping.
Few days later, they met again and he took her to the mall and bought her a brand new phone after which they went to his hotel room and indulged in sexual act once again. Upon leaving, he gave her another 50k for cab fare.
This brought it to a total of 200k Irene had been given by this man in less than two weeks.
I am not saying 200k justifies engaging in a sexual act with a married man or any man for that matter. All I am saying is that so called 200k as we know from the story will go A LONG WAY in the life of Irene and her family. And it did..
Irene successfully acquired Jamb form, passed and enrolled in the university along with one of her sisters.
She saw her “Aristo” many more times that she was able to gather enough money to not only open a small shop for her mother to sell provisions and cater for her siblings but also to move them to a biggser apartment as opposed to the studio apartment she, her siblings and mum were squeezing in.
Once again, this is the justification I speak of.
Yes, Irene might be classified as a “runs girl”, yes she was “satisfying the segsy time and needs of the male species in return for material things”, and yes she “gave the GF experience and acted like his GF as long as the money/payment in kind was pouring in”. These are all the definition of “runs girl” BUT this so called definition was what rescued Irene and her family from abject poverty.
There are so many other girls like that just like the one in Linda Ikeji’s blog story that depend on whatever these men give to them as a means of livelihood not only for them but for their families.
I know of so many girls in my University who used the connections of these big, rich, Aristo men to get good and sustainable employment after graduation. And they went on to forfeit “runs” (now that they have a legitimate and sustainable source of income), got married and continue to lead a happy, fulfilling life.
However, where I draw the line is with girls that do “runs” just for the fun of it. I’m talking about girls from comfortable and well to do homes that are spoilt and used to getting whatever they want. And since mummy and daddy won’t give it to them, they resort to getting it from “Aristos”.
I find such girls and act to be completely disgusting and frankly if you ask me, these are the ones tainting the entire thing for the rest of those that actually indulge in the act simply for survival.
Whatever the case may be, it really is unfortunate that the country we live in is quite tough and the chances of survival without education are very slim. And even with education, you need influence from the rich and mighty to get good, sustainable employment.
It is easy for the rich to say “what those girls do is disgusting” but if only they walk a mile in their shoes, will they get to comprehend poverty’s crippling nature.
OVER TO YOU:
What’s your take on this?
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